You Deserve Peace.
I help couples, families and individuals impacted by divorce find solutions towards more peace in their life and relationships. It means money in your pockets instead of paying lawyers every time you have a disagreement. It means enjoying your children's milestones together like graduations, weddings, holidays and the births of your grandchildren. It means not living with bitterness or letting your divorce define your story.
What is Reunification Therapy?
Reunification therapy or family reintegration therapy is a family-centered intervention. This therapy helps children reestablish a healthy relationship with both parents after a time of absence from one of the parents. The absence of one parent can be as a result from substance abuse, incarceration, DHR involvement, a high-conflict divorce, parental alienation, or a combination of these issues. In this unique process, the family therapist helps the parents remove the barriers to reunification and acts as the diplomat for the children. Reunification is typically ordered by the court with a Guardian-ad-Litem in place.
The main goal of Reunification Therapy (RT) is to reintroduce a parent back into a child’s life in a safe, controlled, and therapeutic manner. The process of RT is designed to ensure a safe environment for the children and parents involved to create a new and secure bond with one another under the close supervision of one of our clinicians. The most important idea of Reunification Therapy is the long-term goal of reconnecting the parent and child for a long-lasting bond.
What is Co-Parent Coaching?
My process for Co-parenting Counseling is that I meet with each parent separately first to hear each of the parent’s stories and concerns. We will then start meeting in joint sessions. I also like to meet with the child once or twice to get a sense from them about how they are feeling about the divorce. It is powerful to watch their eyes when they find out that their mom and dad have been meeting and talk about them. Kids love it! Once your child realizes BOTH of you are talking and are on the same page, they will begin to have a harder time using your divorce as a way to manipulate both of you. All children of divorce manipulate whether they do it intentionally or unintentionally. Often they are also in a lot of pain and feel caught in the middle. My office becomes a safe place where they can share their pain, anger, and confusion about the divorce.S
The first joint session is very structured going over a Co-parent plan as well as working through several educational tools together. These tools can help co-parents learn how to communicate more effectively and disengage from their marital relationship. We then begin working on parenting issues. Both parents bring 1-2 parenting issues to the session. These parenting issues can be anything from scheduling, educational, health, discipline, and communication issues. These conversations are powerful because so many times divorced couples have made incorrect stories up in their heads about the other person. When divorced couples sit down and talk with each other and a third-part who helps them navigate what the other person is saying, this can be a profound moment in both of them moving forward instead of living in the past.
Court Ordered Therapy
Sometimes parents go through a divorce or separation, experience a season of difficulty with financial resources, drug addiction, aggression, conflict, or even abusive behavior. When these lead to legal consequences, parents or children are often mandated by the court to attend some form of psychotherapy.
Court ordered therapy is a legal decision made by the judge to address the individual and familial issues that contributed to the difficult situation. Some families interpret court ordered therapy as a punishment; however, this is an opportunity for positive change. Families can feel caught in ruts for a variety of reasons.
Here at Family Connections Therapy, we offer treatment for individuals and families looking to get out of those ruts. Specifically, we provide therapy for clients who are ordered through Dependency and Family Law Court.
Some families feel embarrassed, frustrated, or confused about attending therapy based on a judge’s final ruling. However, the decision to order treatment is made with the intent of providing healing and preventing future difficulties.
Take a moment to consider what led to your family being brought into court. Are you and your partner going through a divorce? Is anyone dealing with immense stress or lack of support? Have there been traumatic events within the family? Does your family often fight or argue?
Problems such as these rarely happen out of nowhere, as families typically develop these difficulties over time.
Although legal intervention can sometimes act as a wakeup call for families to change patterns that have developed over time, parents and children often lack the support and knowledgeneeded to repair relationships, change habits, and work better as a team in the future. When the problem remains unaddressed, often families find obstacles worsening over time.
Families that find themselves in a rut that leads to court involvement often experience symptoms such as:
- Breakdowns in communication among family members
- Abusive behavior
- Isolation and lack of support
- Dependence on alcohol or drugs
- Unhealthy venting or angry outbursts
- Child or partner neglect
We know how devastating it can be to deal with these situations – and we want to help. We offer therapy services specifically tailored to individuals and families who are mandated by the court to attend treatment. We provide shame-free, blame-free counseling that focuses on the most relevant issues, identifies solutions, and sets the groundwork for changes that last.